Beloved, how are you doing today? I have been watching the leaves change colors and fall from their trees. While my pup and I were walking the other day two words traipsed through my head, beautiful sadness. That is kinda what I think of the fall season. The colors are wonderful but the sadness is equally real for me. Everything is getting ready to sleep, the darkness is coming. The darkness is coming, sounds like a bad “B” movie right. That is how I feel about the winter season that will soon be upon us. More darkness, less daylight hours, for people with SAD, seasonal affective disorder, that is a recipe for some hard times emotionally. I have not been the recipient of such a diagnosis but I have empathy for those who have.
My wife loved the fall season, I have the feeling that the next couple of fall seasons are going to be a bit tough so maybe we can help each other get through them. You know sadness is okay. Just be careful to not let it totally consume you. Just like with any feeling or emotion, you need to be the one in charge rather than it. Whatever emotion you are experiencing, IT IS OKAY. No one can tell what you should or should not feel.
With that being said let’s feel the beautiful sadness for a bit and then find a way to get to the other side. I am still new to this widowhood stuff so I have a lot of beautiful sadness moments every day. I wish there was a formula for getting to the other side. Something simple like 1+1=2, but there just isn’t one. The formula for dealing with the beautiful sadness can include faith, talk therapy, persistence, friends, community. The exact formula is as different for each person as the people themselves are different.
Beloved, when you feel that beautiful sadness creeping up on you, face it, feel it, deal with it, but don’t run from it. You will never be able to run fast enough.
Have a lovely…….
Mona LangmaackMelin
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