Hello Beloved,
This particular post went up on Labor Day, which this year is 3 days after what would have been my Beloveds 59th birthday. As of this post it has been a bit past 500 days since my Beloved left me for her forever home in the afterlife.
If you have read much of this blog you are aware that at some point I wrote about having been told that year two of a grief experience is different than year one. Different meaning harder. I have heard for many years that year one of grief you are in shock, year two you actually grieve and year three you begin to find a truer new normal. My experience thus far is supporting that theory.
This second year sucks, I find myself feeling lost more often. I just don’t really care about much of anything beyond my critters. Thankfully I am self-aware enough to know when I need to ask for help. If you are grieving something or someone I encourage you to find it in yourself to ask for help even when and especially when some part of you is telling you that you don’t need any help. I know what that place is like, and it is not any fun.
I am one of the worst at asking for help. It took a very long time for me to get to the point of being willing to ask for help. I hope you don’t take as long as I did. Beloved please make it a priority to take care of yourself.
Grief is grief no matter what the loss is. Given this past year plus I think we would be hard pressed to find anyone that has not been touched by grief. I hope beyond hope that this terrible experience of the past year can bring us together so we can support each other.
What ever the future brings we can not go it alone. Please believe me on that one Beloveds. I need you; you need me.
Now thinking about the title of this post. People may say to just move on from your grief, get over it already will you. That is not going to happen Beloved.
We can however learn to move forward. The weight of grief will never totally go away but we can learn to manage it differently and continue to move forward with life.
Come on Beloved, let’s move forward together, yeah.
Beloved, have a lovely…
Mona LangmaackMelin
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