Be Careful What You Wish For

Hello Beloved,

Have you heard the title phrase? I am sure you have or at least some variation of it. I have been thinking about words, the ones we say to others and the ones we say to ourselves. Sometimes they can be very different. In my personal experience the words “I wish” tend to focus on what would benefit me and the words “I hope” tend to focus on others. Example: “I wish **** would stop calling me at work.” “I hope ****’s surgery goes smoothly.”

I am sure if you have ever had to deal with other people you have spoken words in anger. It so easy to let our emotions choose our words. Yet, I think it is so important to let our heads and hearts choose our words.

I have a lot more time these days to listen to myself and pay attention to the words I am using. It takes hard work and determination to change what was and is to what you really want it to be. I will use myself as an example. I went through a time when I behaved as if saying a swear word would bring down lightening from the heavens and I have also been through times when I behaved as if only swear words could get my point across. For me, neither of those are true.

I tend these days to try hard to be aware of the words that I put out into the ether because someday they may very well come back to me. Early on in my marriage we both came to the agreement that we would not lie to each other. It simply is too much work to lie. You say one lie and then you have come up with another that makes the first one seem true, so on and so on. Pretty soon you have an avalanche of lies that is threatening to smother you. I find it easier to speak the truth. I may have to deal with consequences, but it will be easier than dealing with the avalanche.

I think it is a rare thing for me to make a promise. I do not want to break one and damage my self-worth or to damage how others see me and relate to me. Being trustworthy has a high value in my world.

Beloved, may I encourage you to think about your words. How do they reflect on you? I hope, I hope my words have value for you Beloved.

If not, what is the good that comes from this blog.

Beloved, have a lovely….

Mona LangmaackMelin