Hello Beloved, hope you had a good week. Here in my world we are dealing with the loss of the oldest resident of the sanctuary. He was only 18, sadly cancer won the fight. He was a very sweet and gentle cat who had fur like velvet. I miss my Bear Bear.
How do you handle loss? Some people wail and weep and nash the teeth. Some sit shiva for 7 days. Some people slide into denial. I tend to sit on it internally for a while and then process it in writing of some kind. You are the unfortunate recipients of the processing process.
When I get into a love situation of any kind I tend to love fiercely, not giving too much thought to the consequences of loving fiercely. Hence when I get hurt by love it is usually a deep hurt. I have eternal hope that people will say what they mean and mean what they say and be their true selves all the time. Unfortunately that happens less than I would like it to. Are you reluctant to love because you have been too hurt too often? There is no way to go through life without some kind of loss. The best we can hope for is that we learn early how best to deal with it in ourselves.
What is the best way to deal with loss? I think it is specific to each individual. What is right for me may not be for you. The best I can do is to encourage you to explore and embrace what works for you to deal with loss. It does not matter if the loss is as recent as yesterday or decades past. All loss needs attention of some kind. I think the sooner we embrace it the better off our mental health will be. Beloved, be encouraged to do the work and explore the loss you find laid in your lap. Work it so you can be free to continue on with the work of life.
Mona's Monday Musings 